Identifying Red Flags
Red Flag Behavior
- Inconsistent communication
- Hot-and-cold engagement
- Avoids accountability
- Words don’t match actions
- You feel anxious or confused
- Boundaries are tested or ignored
- Future promises replace present behavior
- You over-function emotionally
- You feel like you are “chasing”
- You lose yourself in the connection
Green Flag Behavior
- Consistent, predictable communication
- Steady emotional presence
- Takes responsibility and repairs
- Words align with actions
- You feel calm and grounded
- Boundaries are respected
- Present behavior reflects commitment
- Emotional responsibility is shared
- You feel mutually chosen
- You maintain your identity
The Numbers that Matter
70%
of individuals in trauma-bonded relationships return to the relationship at least once before permanently leaving.
80%
of survivors report experiencing chronic anxiety, hypervigilance, or emotional dysregulation after prolonged emotional abuse.
95%
of trauma-bonded relationships involve some form of emotional or psychological abuse.
75%
of survivors report experiencing cognitive dissonance and confusion about the relationship despite recognizing harmful behaviors.
60%
of individuals practicing consistent nervous system regulation and support strategies report improvement in emotional stabilization and boundary maintenance over time.